“We’ll see” September 8, 2008
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The other day I was so excited that I was going to be able to actually USE one of the upgrade certificates that Air Canada sends to frequent flyers (they call it Elite Status, but I’m not sure what’s so elite about it). Anyway, I was booked on a flight from Toronto to Vancouver, and knowing that I had booked on one of the new Air Canada planes, I was thrilled at the idea of sitting in one of those futuristic looking bed seats. I was feeling so happy about my good fortune and SOOO looking forward to the flight. Boy was I disappointed when I got on the plane only to find they had switched the plane to one of their antique broken down planes that sound like they’re going to fall apart every time they take-off or land.
I was so mad that I wasted the upgrade certificate on a broken seat that also had next to no legroom (first seat by the broken movie screen). While I was busy being mad at Air Canada, suddenly I recalled a scene from the movie “Charlie Wilson’s War” where Gus Avacados tells the story of a Zen master… and I had to laugh at myself. (this looks to be the origin of the version of the story told in that movie):
There is a Taoist story of an old farmer who had worked his crops for many years. One day his horse ran away. Upon hearing the news, his neighbors came to visit.
“Such bad luck,” they said sympathetically.
“We’ll see,” the farmer replied.
The next morning the horse returned, bringing with it three other wild horses.
“How wonderful,” the neighbors exclaimed.
“We’ll see,” replied the old man.
The following day, his son tried to ride one of the untamed horses, was thrown, and broke his leg. The neighbors again came to offer their sympathy on his misfortune.
“We’ll see,” answered the farmer.
The day after, military officials came to the village to draft young men into the army. Seeing that the son’s leg was broken, they passed him by. The neighbors congratulated the farmer on how well things had turned out.
“We’ll see” said the farmer.
This is good therapy for me, I think…. to be help me become less attached to a particular outcome. As it turns out it was a pleasant flight, and I had a great conversation with the flight crew.
Floodstock August 15, 2007
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These are the songs I performed at Floodstock:
First Day of My Life (Bright Eyes)
Fall for Anything (Jeremy Fisher)
Fixin’ to Die Rag (Country Joe McDonald) -
Fire & Rain (James Taylor
Creep (Radiohead)
Teach Your Children (CSNY) -
Falling Slowly (Glen Hansard)
Bobcaygeon (The Tragically Hip)
I’ve Just Seen a Face (Beatles) -
Perhaps, Perhaps, Perhaps (Cake) -
Delicate (Damien Rice)
Gimme One Reason (Tracey Chapman) -
Prison on Route 41 (Iron & Wine)
Each Coming Night (Iron & Wine)
..that was all I had time for before the sound guys packed it in for the night.
the cottage effect August 5, 2007
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just finished a week at a cottage, and the weather was hot & sunny. it’s amazing what that can do to slow down your brain and rejuvinate you. I’ll be spending my holiday monday catching up, and flying back to Vancouver.
I’m excited about an event that’s coming up on August 18 outside of Saint John, NB: Floodstock – The annual summer picnic/camping and concert at my boss (Geoff Flood’s) family farm. This years event is call Summer Groove Fest.. check out the deets HERE
A few years ago they built a stage, and every year they have lots of bands. This year I’m playing a gig to close the show (late shift don’t cha know). This is something new for me, as my usual venue is a campfire or my apartment… it should be interesting
I’ll try and post my playlist here when I get it nailed down.
Spontaneity for a Wednesday June 28, 2007
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I hiked up Grouse Mountain (the Grouse Grind) after work yesterday. I’ve been in Vancouver for 18 months and I’ve yet to do it. It’s been scheduled several times, but something always seems to come up. Anyway, it was an incredible workout, and it was easy to see why large numbers of serious runners do this on a regular basis.
After taking the Skyride down to the base, while I waited for my bus, I got a call from my friend William to see if I wanted to go to a hear some jazz. It was the Cellar jazz club, and we saw a group called Zapato Negro. They were awesome…. and it was another great unplanned surprise…
Recent Diversions June 27, 2007
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The weather in Vancouver in June has, well, SUCKED (it’s felt more like October, very grey and chilly). Some of those days felt like indoor days, and in the past week these have been some enjoyable diversions:
I went to see “Once”, a movie about an Irish street musician and a woman he meets who plays piano. This movie has won big at the festivals, and I really enjoyed it. I loved the music (sort of like Damien Rice), and when I got home from the movie I downloaded the chords and immediately learned the main song from the movie (Glen Hansard’s “Falling Slowly” see HERE on YouTube).
I’ve also been to the Vancouver Art Gallery a couple of times this week (nice way to relax at lunchtime)… and they especially like Monet to Dali & Critical Space
Also saw two IMAX 3D movies – Dinosaurs 3D and Deep Sea 3D. We had seen Deep Sea before, and I would see it once a week it’s such a delight. I spent the whole movie feeling like a 6 year old in a constant state of wonderment
I’m headed back to Toronto this weekend…and expect to find some serious heat and sun when I get there!
“Still” Life April 16, 2007
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There was a great piece in the Globe & Mail newspaper on the weekend, written by Yann Martel (author of the novel Life of Pi). You can see the article HERE, but what really struck me was not that Arts funding is not a priority for politicians, but the follow passage about STILLNESS:
“…and I got to thinking about stillness. To read a book, one must be still. To watch a concert, a play, a movie, to look at a painting, one must be still. Religion, too, makes use of stillness, notably with prayer and meditation. Just gazing upon a still lake, upon a quiet winter scene—doesn’t that lull us into contemplation? Life, it seems, favours moments of stillness to appear on the edges of our perception and whisper to us, “Here I am. What do you think?” Then we become busy and the stillness vanishes, yet we hardly notice because we fall so easily for the delusion of busyness, whereby what keeps us busy must be important, and the busier we are with it, the more important it must be. And so we work, work, work, rush, rush, rush. On occasion we say to ourselves, panting, ‘Gosh, life is racing by.’ But that’s not it at all, it’s the contrary: life is still. It is we who are racing by”.
This is something I definitely need to remember… that even when the pace is fast, it’s our internal reaction to it that causes us to feel stress.
Saying goodbye to my Mom April 2, 2007
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After a long and courageous battle with Cancer, my Mom (Carol Illies) died on March 23. Her last few weeks were very difficult, and my brothers and sister and I (and Ali) kept a 24 hr/day watch over Mom in the hospital. I’m glad that she’s finally at peace, and no longer suffering. I’m grateful to have been able to come back to Toronto for a month before she died, and I spent lots of time with her. One of my most poignant memories is lying with her and singing her to sleep with a lullabye.
We had a memorial service for her last Saturday, and it was so great to see the impact that she had on so many people. Lots of laughter and tears. We set up a memorial website, and lots of people have commented with their memories of my Mom.
I don’t think it’s fully hit me yet…but I’m sure it will.
Working from Maui (Part One) April 2, 2007
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In mid-January, Ali & I left for Maui. We had been planning for several years to spend an extended period there, during Ali’s year-long hiatus from teaching. The plan was I would work remotely from Maui and travel back to Vancouver and Toronto once a month to visit clients. We were staying with Tom Sewell (my biological father), and I had a little office set up there. Maui was awesome, and on the weekends we were able to do lots of exploring (especially snorkeling). Things were going pretty well working remotely, and I was getting ready for my first trip back to Vancouver & Toronto, when we got word that my Mom’s cancer had advanced considerably. Both Ali & I decided to head back to Toronto to be with her. The rest of the Maui plan was put on hold….
Out of Balance (w/ some bright spots) November 6, 2006
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I wrote before about irony and life balance. Here’s another one: I’m living in one of the most beautiful cities in the world (Vancouver) where so many people are outdoors and physically active, and where life balance is so revered….and yet for the past few months I’ve had the poorest life/work balance I can remember.
It really requires practice, and I find that once the balance is tipped severely, it tends to pick up speed. I haven’t been running for 2 months due to a knee injury, and running had been the catalyst for my efforts at balance. When I was running, I was going to the gym more, eating and sleeping better, and was able to handle the stress of my job much better. So I need to practice! One way is to take a breather and write here.
This weekend I also played the guitar a bit, and learned a nice ballad: “I will follow you into the dark” by Death Cab for Cutie. Then Ali & I walked in the rain and went to see the 3D Imax movie called Deep Sea. It was INCREDIBLE. Young or old, you must go see this movie. The 3D technology was truely remarkable, and the cinematography was so beautiful.
Finally, one thing that definitely helped me put things into perspective, was this story from Sports Illustrated, about a heroic everyman Dad who does the Ironman with his disabled son in tow. This may be the most inspiring thing I’ve ever read/seen.


